Did Sha and I change?

Did Sha and I change?  As far as I know, no we didn't.  Here's a general idea of our activities before we left the Philippines:

Weekdays:
- go to work
- eat out if we have time

Weekends:
- rest or nood ng sine

Holidays:
- Birthdays:
In my family, we don't really celebrate birthdays...kung may time lang or may extra money to have dinner with the whole family
In Sha's family, only during his mama and lola's birthdays

- Christmas and New Year:
Christmas and New Year's Eve, Sha will go home to his family.  Christmas and New Year's Day, he spends it with me.

As you can see, we only visit and talk to our families during special occasions.  The only person I usually talk to is my ate.  Since my daddy is in Cagayan, I only get to talk to him when he visits us in Manila.  I would usually tell him what's happening with me like my work and personal life.  On Sha's side, it's usually me or his friends and sometimes his eldest brother, Riri.  We talked to our parents only when it's necessary because we're not really close to them.  Both Sha and I have been brought up to be independent and one of the effects of that is we usually keep our feelings to ourselves, we don't really share them to our parents. 

Now that we're here in Singapore, nothing has changed.   Our activities are still the same.  Now, to tell us that we have changed (actually, they said we became arrogant) because we're living in another country is just plain unfair.  Does living in another country obliges us to change the relationship we have with our parents?  I mean do we have to be closer to them now that we're living in another country?  Everytime we go back to the Philippines, do we have to visit every family and relatives and celebrate?  That attitude is just too provincial.   

Here's the story so that you can relate.

Sha and I went back to the Philippines to attend two weddings.  We are only staying for 5 days.  The itinerary is:

day 1:
- fly back
- eta is 6 pm megamall
- buy barong for sha

day 2:
morning:  buy groceries to bring back to singapore
afternoon till evening:  attend alyson's wedding

day 3:
lunch:  lunch with arcigals and beran
evening:  lunch with sha's friends

day 4:
morning till lunch:  go to GA and fix the papers that need to be signed, haircut
afternoon till evening:  attend raynor's wedding

day 5:
fly home

So since the schedule is just too tight, sha and I decided not to let the rempillos know that we're going home.  It sounds bad on our part but where do we fit the meeting with them?  Just so you know, there was no special occasion this May and last December, since it was Christmas, we met with the rempillos even though Sha had only one whole day to stay in the Philippines.  So as to avoid any complications, we arrived with the conclusion not to tell them.  So you're asking, why are we meeting my family then?  Because they are just in QC.  Sha's family is in Laguna.  Also, I really have to meet my mommy to fix the papers for the condo.

The problem started when my mommy told Sha's mama that we're going home.  I called my mommy saying that if ever Sha's mama asked again, tell her that it was cancelled.  My mommy, as always, having her own issues, did the opposite.

When we landed in the Philippines, I texted my sister my new philippine number so that she can contact me.  My mommy asked my sister where we are and my sister gave her my number.  My mommy then started contacting Sha's mama.  Mommy said a lot of things to Sha's mama.  I don't want to go into details...it's just too much.  Actually, when we went to QC to visit them last Sunday, my mommy is asking Sha why he isn't in Laguna.  What?  Why does she want Sha to be in Laguna? To be with his mama?  That's exactly the point why we don't want to tell them that we're going home.  We don't have time to go to Laguna.  If only we can afford to stay a few more days, then we can visit all of them.  But in the real world, Sha and I have work in Singapore that only allow the both of us to have this much of time for vacation leaves.  Why can't they understand that?  Why can't they trust the decision Sha and I made?  Don't they trust their own children?  I really don't understand.

So the summary is sha's mama got annoyed with us, my mommy told us that "mayabang na kami porke't nasa ibang bansa na kami" and of course, I'm pissed off.

Lesson learned?  I don't know yet because I'm still much confused.